Fear: Police Don’t See Women as Abusers
Reality Check: According to a journal, a domestic violence case in Florida made headlines when a man – an army ranger – came forward with evidence that his estranged wife had physically abused him. His proof? Video from a Go Pro camera he was wearing that allegedly showed his wife physically assaulting him in front of their children. The two have been engaged in a bitter divorce and custody battle, and now domestic violence has been added to the mix. The wife in this matter has been charged and is currently in jail.
Fear: Domestic Violence Victim Shelters Don’t Help Men
Reality Check: There are organizations that strictly offers help to domestic violence victims. Often there are helplines that ignores the messages of male victims and aren’t welcome. While women may be the predominant group these agencies serve, many shelters and outreach groups provide services for male DV victims, including safe house shelter and legal assistance. In you are a male seeking help, do not let a shelter’s name or title throw you off.
Fear: Men Who Seek Help Are Weak
Reality Check: Many men don’t seek help for domestic abuse because they fear that it will make them look weak. The truth? There are few actions that require as much bravery as walking away from an abusive relationship. To recognize that you are in need of help and then take the steps needed to get it is not weakness. It’s a sign of strength.
Fear: Gay Male Victims Will Be “Outed”
Reality Check: When seeking help from a shelter or other domestic violence victim services, gay men who wish to keep their sexual orientation private may believe they will need to reveal this information in order to get help. However, it is enough to identify yourself as a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence advocates and counsellors know that you are in crisis and are trained not to pressure victims to respond to questions they are not comfortable answering. It’s also okay to ask about what policies are in place to ensure that any information you share will be kept private.
